The Nadir in US history as an Exploration of Trauma : Danielle's Soapbox
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I randomly have reactions to current events from a psychological and sprititual perspective that I want to share from my soapbox.  I fear my rantings are only interesting to me, but so often, I see things or know things that are happening that need to be brought to light.  I also know that if I don't create the courage to speak up, then I might not be aiding someone else's effort to be courageous.

I know that knowledge is power and speaking up is powerful. I believe that if I dare to speak up, others will know that they are not alone in their opinions and beliefs and with that knowledge, momentum can be gained in attaining awareness.

My intention in climbing onto my metaphorical internet soapbox is to help the effort to bring everyone to their highest potential.  I hold that we are creating a better world when we reach within ourselves to seek a better self.  For in that momentous effort, compassion for ourselves is attained and then compassion for other's becomes sweetly and joyously infectuous.

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The Nadir in US history as an Exploration of Trauma

by Danielle DeBray on 06/19/18

Children were seen slamming their fist into cement floors as they laying sobbing.  More hunderds of children stand crying or become mute because they are shocked into silence as they wait.  They are packed into cages made of metal and wire with nets over the top so that they can’t crawl out and no one but a few staff members can get into.  Other children are reported to be throwing things and screaming as well as scratching themselves in an attempt at self-harm.  Younger-than-a year babies are being separated from their mothers reducing their chance of survival.  Teenagers are teaching others how to change diapers of these babies in the holding cages.

This is only the beginning.

What we are witnessing in the caged immigration camps, where children have been separated from their parents who have attempted to immigrate to the US, is attachment rupture.  Currently, 70 children a day are being torn from their families.  Unfortunately, with the new Zero Tolerance Policy, these holding tanks are taking in hundreds more children than previously have ever been handled. 

This means newborns, 1, 2, 3 years and older children are being asked to handle being separated from their caregivers with no adequate emotional preparation called normalizing.  This is where the caregiver normalizes or explains what is happening to the child/children so they can begin to process events.  It’s like a computer receiving directions of what to do next.  If the child doesn’t receive those instructions from the known caregiver/s, the motherboard, then the child begins to corrupt internally.  

Apparently, because so many of the children are not being given information of what’s happening or even being given misinformation such as the “parents are gone," the children are in trauma, they are in deep grief and they are being emotionally abandoned when they have no ability to process this information themselves.  This creates a whole volley of emotional responses because children do not have the benefit of fully formed neural pathways.  These do not develop fully until humans are in their early twenties. 

As a result, the child will think this tragedy they are experiencing is going to go on forever or that the parents are going to be gone forever.   The problem is right now, we don’t know if those children aren’t right because their parents are frequently being deported while the children remain behind. There are also no government procedures to give the children back to the parents, currently according to an article in The New Yorker by Jonathan Blitzer.  He states “HHS can help” with reunification.  There is no regulation to regulate or even enforce the return of the children.

In the camps, the children are sobbing, acting out emotionally, freezing, as they experience trauma.  and:

  1. There is no one to witness it, i.e., care, provide empathy or attunement.

  2. This causes the child to think they are wrong or bad because the trauma has them feeling so horrible inside.  In child-think, their neural pathways are set up to tell them that they are crazy or wrong because none of the adults are acting upset. In fact, it is reported that adults in the facility are just walking around as if everything is okay in emotionally neglecting the children.   If a child doesn’t receive feedback while they are begin traumatized  that what’s being done to them is wrong, thousands of neural pathways are being formed to normalize that it is okay to be treated badly and the child is wrong in expecting care. This creates a bed rock of shame to later create massive emotional dysfunction and inability to attach effectively to others.

  3. Some of the older children and even some of the younger children in the holding cages will know that they aren’t being treated right.  Further, they can then see that the abuse is being sanctioned by the groups of people in the institution. For instance, the adults who are walking around watching children cry, but not touching them as has been sanctioned by these institutions.  Some children may even know that these sanctions are being perpetrated by the United States.  This will then register in their minds as community-sanctioned abuse.  This is so frightening because this is the genesis of neural mapping that creates psychopaths or malignant narcissists.  In school shootings, it is the children who have been scapegoated by their family, friends as well as the school who frequently rage outwardly with guns.

Basically what happens when the child’s mind is traumatized is that instead of the painful circumstance being healed with a caregiver who will show that as a human you can experience awful things and be okay, the child receives a hormonal bath in the brain. This is very bad because the adrenalin from the fight or flight stress response to trauma, will groove what can be a permanent neural pathway into their young brain like an operating code. One such ‘code’ a child experiencing trauma and emotional abandonment at the same time could receive is that s/he is in danger and no one cares.

This neural pathway can be so embedded from stress and trauma that even if the child goes back to their parents and the parents do all the appropriate cooing and cuddling to provide that much needed empathy and attunement that can heal this, the child may be irreparably damaged.  Evidence of this occured in Nazis Germany when children were separated from parents and never recovered.

If a child experiences community sanctioned abuse, the child learns that society rules are for others.  Others enjoy a nice life.  Others enjoy protection.  The thinking then goes if ‘others’ don’t care about them while they were being abused, when these children become adults and have some power, then why should they care about ‘others?’  It is a logical outcome to the abuse they experienced because there is no neural pathway of self-care able to regulate what can become a violent rage at the injustice they have experienced.   The parents who would have instilled the ability in the child to self-regulate got separated from them by the United States government.

So, when you or your child or your grandchild meets in about 10-20 years some antisocial rage-aholic who just engaged in some atrocious gratuitous act of violence towards you and/or your loved one that you can barely recover from, and you ask “Why would someone do such a thing!!”  This is why.  

I hope in sharing my perspective on a political situation from an attachment perspective, light can not only be brought to your own learning edges but that your attunement can be developed towards others as well.  That is what a well functioning society does.  It cares. And as a part of that society, I care. I hope this has helped deepen you’re care of yourself and/or others.

Comments (4)

1. Chris P said on 6/21/18 - 03:59PM
So good to hear "read" your wise words again. I just recently was in a heated debate with a friend of many years who is a strong republican. I can tell you, I failed horribly with my emotional intimacy skills, but I was so fired up it was impossible to reply back to his nonsense with any sort of emotional control. I posted a picture of one of these children sleeping (or dead) on the concrete under one of these thermal foil blankets, and titled it "F--- your political views, use your human views, this needs to stop". He lit me up saying that this started during the Obama administration, and that the press is only making it mainstream now to attack the current POTUS. I responded "I don't care who started it, think like a human, show some compassion". He could not, and kept arguing that its the best alternative for this situation. To your point regarding the antisocial rage-aholic, I spoke of the irony here. That his president is trying to keep MS13 members out of the United States, when all this act is doing is brewing up the next several generations of MS13 members. Take care DD, and keep the posts coming!
2. Chris P said on 6/21/18 - 04:07PM
Great post! I can relate because I recently was in a heated debate with a long time friend over this subject. I posted an image of one of these children lying under a foil blanket. Could have been sleeping, could have been dead. I titled it something to the tune of "forget your political beliefs, use your human beliefs. This needs to stop". Our debate went late into the night, but I begged this man to show some compassion, and he could not. Really changed my perspective of him as a friend, sadly. To the point of the antisocial rage-aholics, I pointed out the irony here. While the POTUS thinks he is keeping MS13 members out, he's actually brewing up the next several generations of its members. :( Take care DD, and keep the posts coming!
3. Danielle DeBray said on 6/21/18 - 06:16PM
Thank you for the support Chris! I am glad to hear your story and that my article may have been helpful in giving you courage. Keep up the courage to say your truth. And thank you for your double effort to get your post up. My system is a little slow to do it apparently! Take care, Danielle
4. Natalia A Piper said on 6/23/18 - 12:42PM
What a traumatic topic. Thank you for putting attention on this. I see that Trump made changes on 6/20/2018 to his zero tolerance policy so there’ll be no more separation of children from these i.emmigrants families. Some human adjustments... It's quite concerning what these children going through now and how complicated it'll can unfold for them further. I agree with you that the public will end up paying for all pain and tragedies this policy caused. Hundreds of potentially future rage-aholics as you said on this planet. They can create a lots of events mentally and physically disabling to many. I understand the intensity of your professional concern since you know all pathways to those events and it's terrifying that every day those youngsters gets their brain crippled and dehumanized and coded to express violence and range of brutality on others 10-20 years later. http://reason.com/blog/2018/06/20/trump-reverses-course-on-family-separati http://reason.com/blog/2018/06/21/beginning-of-the-end-of-trump-border-int Politics is heartless, lacks human considerations and empathy, this is why I stopped following them closely. It stresses me out to know what they do to people. Also it's very frustrating since there is not much what can be done individually to reverse and prevent any injustices especially those coming from the government. There're some politicians and political sites that I still look up to and learned from but they are not the ruling ones. All they can do is to devote themselves to informing/educating values to public. Politics nudged and nudge me almost always to divert to on myself for internal look and expressions and stay along firmly with humanity ways.


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